Familie away from Family
Today, Thursday, was another full work day at the church. We painted, we hauled, we painted, we cleaned, we painted… you get the idea.
But first we started off with a Devotional from Sheri. It was from Isaiah 40:28-31 – Do you not know? Have you not heard? The Lord is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He will not grow tired or weary, and His understanding no one can fathom. He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.
Even while the passage was being read out loud, rueful chuckles were going around the table. We’ve been running hard. Several of us are suffering from allergies and trying to keep (sleep-stealing) symptoms under control as best we can. We’ve started grabbing sleep whenever possible, usually in car rides, so conversation has ebbed when we are not working. This passage is exactly what we need. We are physically tired, but we still happy to be serving and wanting to do well in what God has called us to do here. We know that we need to take care of ourselves, but that with God, He will give us the strength and energy to get done what He has chosen for us to finish while we are here: both on the physical church building, and for the church body in Diepenbeek.
Side note: one person from the team has been responsible for a devotional each morning, but we were given no instruction or leading on the passage or topic to do. We find out that morning what has been on this particular person’s heart to share. Yet we all see a clear flow to the succession of devotionals, and each one has been timed perfectly for that day. I don’t think that is coincidence.
So I thought I’d fill you in on something a little more interesting than painting: our host families. As I said in the Brugge post, we know that we were put in the homes we are by God’s plan. We couldn’t have, and didn’t plan this how it has worked out. We are paired so well and really enjoying being in the homes of Diepenbeek church members and getting a real picture of life in Belgium for these Christians instead of a tourist’s point of view.
Disclaimer… I’m guessing at some name spelling here and doing my best to give you an idea of pronunciation in written text. I’m sure I have mistakes!
You have no idea how hard it is to get Vivianne in a picture. I love this pic :-).
Milt, Val & Hugh… are staying with Ivan (pronounced as best I can explain it in text: Eevoe) and Vivianne (ViviANNE). Milt, Val, Ivan & Vivianne have been friends for years and years and years and are really dear to each other. Milt has been coming to the Diepenbeek church for a lot of years (12ish?), and our host told us that Vivianne is happiest when they are here, and she has been all smiles and jokes since we arrived. She has a contagious, teasing sense of humor and is constantly organizing and herding us in the right direction. Ivan seems a strong but quieter contrast to his wife, but when you least expect it he gets a gleam in his eye and can give Vivianne as well as he gets. Hugh has fit right in with their home, in long talks with Ivan about his vineyard. He is even learning all about the care Ivan takes in his winemaking on private guided tutorials.
Don & Jim are staying with Martin (MarTAN) and Chris… Martin is one of the leaders of the church with a quiet, unassuming manner. While he seems reserved when you first meet him, he has (as do many of our Belgium brothers and sisters) a quick wit and fun sense of humor. He also has a huge servant’s heart and goes about the business of the church with a quiet passion. But as I heard from Don and Jim, Martin really shines in his purposeful discussions in coffee houses and on the street where he goes to get into discussions and share Christ. He is tireless in these efforts and deeply desires to see all of Diepenbeek come to Christ. Chris, Martin’s wife has a big smile and twinkle in her eye as she goes about preparing meals and stopping by the church to see if we have all we need, or if anyone needs a ride to the next stop.
Erin & Sheri are staying with Jeanine (zhjaNEEN) & Willie… Jeanine stepped in to house some of us when one of our housing locations had to step out of having 11 days of guests. I haven’t seen anyone so completely thrilled with last minute strangers as houseguests. Within a day Jeanine was glowing and Erin and Sheri were talking about what an interesting and kind woman she was. By two days in Jeanine told us with tears in her eyes that having ‘her’ two girls was just what she needed right now for encouragement. She said she feels like God put two angels in her home! (Doesn’t that make you two moms proud?) Willie has also gotten into the fun of having Erin and Sheri in at home, enjoying their sense of humor and quickly coming to have inside 'family' jokes with them, and taking 'their' girls to Willie & Jeanine's favorite restaurant.
After a long day of painting and balancing on the rung of a ladder, Erin’s feet were really sore one evening. But we were to have a prayer walk around our respective neighborhoods that evening. When Jeanine came in to pick up Erin & Sheri after the day’s work, she came in announcing ‘My Girls!’ to which Erin replied, ‘Mom! I think we should do a prayer sit this evening, not a prayer walk.’ Jeanine was quick to gather ‘her girls’ up and take them home and take care of them. They have had good late night talks, market shopping, good food and sharing about developing those close women bonds that support us in being the women we are to be in Christ.
Scott & I are staying with Eddie & Gaby (GAHbee)… and have tried to bribe Gaby to come home with us and teach me to cook her wonderful meals. They seem to love having people in their home including an overlapping rotation of their 4 grown children and their families. They have also shared stories with us of a number of guests they have invited into their home for varying lengths of time, and people they have helped to get established in the area to stay. Their home is the home that Gaby’s mother grew up in (Gaby grew up next door where her sister’s family and mother still live) and Eddie has expanded and updated the home on his own over the past decades, in between leadership in the church and work (which he bikes to and from daily – 22km each way!). We’ve felt right at home from the start.
Eddie and Gaby both have a wonderful sense of humor in their relaxed home. It makes us wish we understood Flemish – if we find them this funny when they are translating their teasing and jokes into English, imagine if we could understand their first language!
The first day here Gaby and I went out for coffee and to the market (when I should have been napping!) and we had a wonderful talk and prayed together right away. Eddie has been open in talking to us about growing pains in the church over the years and the challenges faced in trying to grow as Christians in Belgium. He's also given us some heartfelt and wise advice about serving in the church and raising kids, and hopefully some of our conversation has been as encouraging to both of them as well.
All of on the team have had moments where we are just at the mercy of the our host family, or whoever happens to be in the room we are at the moment, to get us fed, driven to the our next location, picked up from a random street we’ve been working on, or get us the supplies we need. We have been introduced to someone for the first time moments before hopping in the car with them to drive to the next town to serve in some way. At times we hop in the car to find we have very little common language. And yet – as just happened to Scott and I – even with the repeated struggle to get our thought across through the conversation, we end the time with a hug, with a translated word of encouragement through the next person taking responsibility for us, and having connected on a heart level to another believer. It’s amazing. I know there’s no way to really communicate to all of you reading this the bond between near strangers when they have the same Savior and Lord. If you’ve experienced it, you know what I mean.
One of our team members shared that he/she/it was struggling when it came time to come to Belgium and the first couple of days here. But Thursday this person said now it’s hard to think about going home. At the thought of going home and the changes God has brought, the bonds He has created here, there were quite a few tear-filled eyes. God has so knit together not only our team, but our team with our hosts also. We will dearly miss them when it's time to return to our Virginia home.